5 Myths About Miscarriage
There are quite a few misunderstandings and myths about miscarriage. Here I break down these myths based on my personal experience, and my experience working with many people who have had miscarriages.
Myth #1 "At least you know you can get pregnant"
Most of the people who I’ve met who are dealing with infertility have had a pregnancy loss. That doesn’t mean that they are no longer dealing with infertility because they have gotten pregnant before. This kind of language is hurtful.
Myth #2 It's not that big of a deal
Even though early miscarriage is common, that doesn’t make it any easier.
I was shocked with the lack of response I got from medical professionals. “OK” is never an appropriate answer to “I had a miscarriage”.
Myth #3 The earlier, the easier
Miscarriage is hard to go through, no matter how long you were trying, and no matter how long you were pregnant.
If you experience pregnancy loss after 20 weeks, it’s no longer called a miscarriage, and you have to give birth.
We had been trying for a year and a half, and I was about 6 weeks pregnant, and my miscarriage was still a life-changing experience for me.
Myth #4 It's just like a bad period
I have endometriosis, and I get long, painful and heavy periods. My miscarriage (at six weeks pregnant) was worse than any period I’ve experienced. It was longer, more painful, and heavier.
It’s also important to note that you can’t treat it like a regular period. It is not recommended to use tampons or menstrual cups. You also need to see your doctor, and get at least two blood tests to make sure that your BetaHcG goes down. A D&C might be chosen or medically necessary.
Myth #5 You should try to conceive the cycle after a miscarriage
This is anecdotal advice that I was given that has no foundation in scientific fact. Hearing this might push you to keep trying to conceive right after a pregnancy loss. It is completely up to you and your partner when you are physically and emotionally ready to try again. It could be the month later, or it could be 5 years later.
Dispelling Myths About Miscarriage
If you’re going through a miscarriage, I’m sorry for your loss. This can be a very hard time in your life. Remember that it is not your fault.
The more we talk about miscarriage and pregnancy loss, the more we are able to break the taboo and needless shame around the subject. Let’s work together to dispel myths about miscarriage.
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